When young men helped propel Donald Trump into the White House in 2024, the administration doubled down on a brand of toxic masculinity popular in the so-called manosphere.
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administration → help → manosphere
They touted high testosterone, male supremacy, and a “biblically-based family” where men work and provide, and deferential women stay home to bear children and care for others.
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women → tout → others
In a complete reversal, on 3 November, young men powered the blue tidal wave that swept away Maga’s hold on political power.
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shifted nearly 40 points to help Democrats capture both Houses of Congress, flip seats in state legislatures, and win some unexpected governorships.
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Democrats → shift → governorships
Turns out, young men may not be so toxic after all.
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men → turn → ?
So what do they want?
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The election results made clear that young men want financial stability at a time when the cost of living is soaring and jobs have become precarious, disposable and threatened by AI.
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jobs → make → AI
But they also want time to give care.
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they → want → care
That’s according to recent research we produced with NORC at the University of Chicago on men’s attitudes and experiences with care, based on a nationally representative survey of more than 3,000 Americans, with an oversample of young men 18-29.
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We found that more than six in 10 young men value caregiving as much as paid work, even though many of them are not yet fathers or caring for a loved one.
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many → find → one
Thirty percent of young men identify as caregivers, including 44% of young Hispanic men, who swung for Democrats by 47 points from 2024.
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who → identify → 2024
Nearly six in 10 young men who have worked while giving care have reduced their work hours.
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who → work → hours
Providing care while still earning enough to live is a major concern.
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Providing → provide → enough
“Everything is so expensive these days that a young person can’t even consider taking care of someone, as they can barely take care of themselves,” a 23-year-old male caregiver from Ohio shared in the survey.
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caregiver → consider → survey
Eight in 10 say that being an involved father is an important part of being a man.
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being → say → ?
say they’d be at least somewhat interested in being a stay-at-home parent if they had the choice.
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they → say → choice
In fact, six in 10 young men, compared to about four in 10 young women, said they’d be at least somewhat interested in being a full-time caregiver – hardly the answers politicians pandering with UFC fights on the White House lawn might have expected.
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Abdul, one of our survey respondents, began caring for his chronically ill father at age 19 because no one else in his family was available, and they couldn’t afford the high cost of paying for care.
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they → begin → care
He missed classes, quit his job, and moved in with his extended family in order to care for his father until his death.
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He → miss → death
“It was always nice for me to be there for my father, because he was there for me when I was young,” Abdul, now 26, told us.
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“I have no regrets.
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I → have → regrets
I would do it again.”
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Our survey did find that some young men hold traditional views on gender.
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men → find → gender
Men ages 18 to 29 are nearly three times more likely than women of the same age group to say that it’s OK for men to do some care work, but women are better suited to do most of it (32% versus 12%).
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women → say → %
Young men are also more likely than young women to say that men’s role in the family should be providing financial support while women run the household (32% versus 14%).
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women → say → %
More than 70% of young men say that care should be divided equally between men and women.
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care → say → men
Sixty percent said mothers and fathers do an equally good job of caring for a newborn, compared to just 52% of men over 30.
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mothers → say → 30
And young men are more likely than young women to say gender does not play a role in who is best suited to care for an adult.
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who → say → adult
Half of young men said they are “somewhat” or “very” likely to need paid leave from work to care for a child in the future, about the same share as young women, and 44% anticipated needing leave to care for an adult family member.
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% → say → member
Among young fathers who took paid leave to care for a child, 70% said having access to paid leave through their employer or state was a major reason they took it.
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they → take → it
And when we asked men who wanted to take caregiving leave from work, but didn’t, the most common reasons were that they couldn’t afford it, worried their careers would suffer, or that their workplaces weren’t supportive.
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workplaces → ask → it
Just 5% said taking leave wasn’t “manly”.
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taking → say → leave
Nearly one-third of young men say they have “no control” over their work schedules, and while 33% work from home at least some of the time, 68% would prefer to, a 35-percentage-point gap between what young men have and what they want.
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Perhaps what young men want is what we all want: good work with living wages that ensure the ability to have and care for a family.
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that → want → family
Instead of disgruntled Republicans working to thwart Democrats at every turn in the next Congress, policymakers would do well to raise the minimum wage, help all families cover the high cost of care, and pass federal paid family and medical leave, and measures to give workers more flexibility and control over their schedules.
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families → work → schedules
Evidence suggests young men are moving beyond toxic masculinity and the politics of division.
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If they want to stay in power in 2028 and restore hope for the future, it will be up to policymakers to deliver instead on what the newly elected Texas senator James Talarico calls the politics of love.
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senator → want → love
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Brigid Schulte is an award-winning journalist for the Washington Post and the Washington Post Magazine and was part of the team that won the 2008 Pulitzer prize.
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