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Dear Abby: My alcoholic son won’t get help for his addiction

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Abby, D. (2026, September 27). Dear Abby: My alcoholic son won’t get help for his addiction. New York Post. https://nypost.com/2026/09/27/lifestyle/dear-abby-my-alcoholic-son-wont-get-help-for-his-addiction/

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A retired executive chef writes to advice columnist Dear Abby seeking help for his alcoholic son who refuses treatment and continues to harm family relationships. The father expresses frustration with his inability to convince his son to seek counseling despite acknowledging the alcohol problem. Abby advises attending Al-Anon meetings for support in dealing with a loved one's addiction.
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A Dear Abby column from an anguished father in Texas discusses his alcoholic adult son who refuses help despite admitting to having a problem. The retired executive chef writes that his mean and drunk son hurts family members emotionally and verbally. He calls his father when intoxicated, wanting to talk about cooking but disregarding advice. With no support from the older sister due to past cruelty, the younger sister remains the only other family member willing to communicate, though she too faces abuse. The father seeks guidance on how to help his son who refuses counseling and listens to no one. Abby responds by suggesting that the son must face severe consequences before he will take action against his addiction, implying he needs to reach a personal crisis or "rock bottom" for change.

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Dear Abby
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🔮 I’m willing to bet the place gets cleaned up (or sold) in a hurry once municipal fines have been assessed.
🔮 When it comes time for birthday and Christmas gifts, Mara and I always ask each other what our kids would like for a gift.
🔮 She wouldn’t listen when I asked her not to ring my doorbell for no reason or tease my cats.
🔮 Inform them that if the child ever inhales enough secondhand smoke to test positive for THC, there could be serious legal repercussions (beyond the fact that — as you probably know — cannabis use is still illegal in Indiana).
🔮 Would it be wrong to start declining these invitations and politely explain why?
🔮 I told them immediately that I could not commit to — nor do I want — such a huge responsibility.
🔮 Her husband had left the country so he could renew his visa to come back and work.
🔮 I think they’re afraid that I will start hallucinating again and not have a support system there.
🔮 When I expressed concern, my husband laughed at me and told our son, “Mom is worried what others will think.”
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Al-Anon Dear Abby TEXAS

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ABBY PERSON · 2× Abigail Van Buren PERSON · 1× Al-Anon ORG · 1× Dear Abby ORG · 1× Jeanne Phillips PERSON · 1× Kansas City GPE · 1× Pauline Phillips PERSON · 1× TEXAS GPE · 1×

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If you do, you will find other parents, spouses, siblings and friends of alcoholics who are trying to deal with the same issues as you.
framing: assertive · carried by 1 article(s) · first seen 2026-09-27
🔮 Until he faces the full consequences of what it is costing him — in other words, hits rock bottom — he will do nothing about it.
2026-09-27 · New York Post
Dear Abby: My alcoholic son won’t get help for his addiction · assertive framing

Claims (33 extracted, 1 hedged)

I am a retired executive chef, divorced for many years with three adult children. asserted
I → divorce → children
He stays drunk when not at his job, and he says cruel and nasty things to all family members. asserted
he → stay → members
His older sister has written him off because of all the hurtful things he has said about her and her family. asserted
he → write → her
He calls me when he is drunk and wants to talk about cooking, though he hates it. asserted
he → call → it
He doesn’t listen to me at all and just goes on and on. asserted
He → listen → me
His mother passed three years ago, and he has never gotten over it. asserted
he → pass → it
I love my son very much but can’t talk with him anymore as it upsets me for days after. asserted
it → love → days
How can I get him to seek counseling? asserted
him → get → counseling
He won’t listen to anyone. asserted
He → listen → anyone
He admits that he has an alcohol problem but chooses to do nothing about it. asserted
he → admit → it
The only other family member who still talks to him is his younger sister, and he is mean to her as well. asserted
he → talk → her
What can we do to help him? asserted
we → do → him
I am sorry for your pain, but you cannot force your son to deal with his alcohol addiction. asserted
you → force → addiction
Until he faces the full consequences of what it is costing him — in other words, hits rock bottom — he will do nothing about it. asserted
he → face → it
I hope you will consider visiting some Al-Anon meetings, which you can find by going to al-anon.org/info. asserted
you → hope → al-anon.org/info
These meetings are everywhere, and you should have little difficulty finding one. asserted
you → have → one
If you do, you will find other parents, spouses, siblings and friends of alcoholics who are trying to deal with the same issues as you. asserted
who → do → you
I have often felt as if we were growing apart, finding interests in different things. asserted
we → feel → things
We seem unable to discuss our emotions without one of us getting hurt feelings and the talk devolving into awful arguments. asserted
talk → seem → arguments
One night, I playfully asked if I could go through his computer. uncertain
I → ask → computer
He immediately became defensive, saying he just doesn’t like people getting into his computer, messing with his stuff. asserted
people → become → stuff
I get that. asserted
I → get → that
I wouldn’t want just anybody getting into my computer, either. asserted
anybody → want → computer
However, I am not just anybody; I’m his wife. asserted
I → ’m → ?
He has full access to all of my computers, phones and digital accessories. asserted
He → have → computers
Why do I feel like he’s got something to hide? asserted
he → feel → something
I don’t know what to do. asserted
I → know → what
Pressing your husband on this issue right now will only lead to more arguments. asserted
Pressing → press → arguments
If you want to repair the marriage, you both need to learn to communicate more effectively. asserted
you → want → marriage
If he refuses, go without him. asserted
he → refuse → him
If he agrees, work on the basics now and save the privacy issues and your suspicions for future sessions. asserted
he → agree → sessions
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren. asserted
Abby → write → Buren
For nearly four decades, Jeanne Phillips penned this column, which was founded in 1956 by her mother, Pauline Phillips. asserted
which → pen → mother
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