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Dear Abby: My best friend calls me four times a week out of boredom

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Abby, D. (2026, October 4). Dear Abby: My best friend calls me four times a week out of boredom. New York Post. https://nypost.com/2026/10/04/lifestyle/dear-abby-advises-on-a-best-friend-who-wont-stop-calling/

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New York Post · collected 2026-10-04 · by Dear Abby analysis

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A reader from Idaho seeks advice on discussing weight concerns about their granddaughter with family members after a confrontational interaction. The columnist suggests approaching the topic privately and emphasizes sensitivity given Libby’s medical condition. Another correspondent in Pennsylvania asks for guidance on managing frequent calls from a retired friend, Ralph, who repeatedly discusses the same topics. Abby advises gently steering conversations to new subjects without rudeness to maintain a balanced friendship.
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DEAR ABBY: A reader from Idaho moved 2,000 miles to be near her daughter and granddaughter, "Libby," who was diagnosed with a medical condition causing her to gain weight. The grandmother wanted to discuss her concern about Libby's health but felt shut down by the son-in-law, who told her not to mention Libby’s weight and implied she had hurt the children before. Distraught, the reader apologized to her daughter, only for the son-in-law to visit her house and reiterate his concerns. The grandmother is hurt that her daughter did not address the issue directly with her. Abby advises the reader to discuss ways to positively interact with the family while respecting their sensitivities regarding weight discussions linked to medical conditions.

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Dear Abby
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In this way, you subtly make it obvious that you’re not going to let him drag you into the same conversations time and time again.
framing: assertive · carried by 1 article(s) · first seen 2026-10-04
🔮 Before I could finish, my son-in-law came in, told me I shouldn’t be talking about Libby’s weight and walked away.
2026-10-04 · New York Post
Dear Abby: My best friend calls me four times a week out of boredom · assertive framing

Claims (32 extracted, 3 hedged)

I moved 2,000 miles to be near my daughter and her family. asserted
I → move → daughter
One of my granddaughters, “Libby,” was diagnosed with a medical condition and has put on some weight. asserted
One → diagnose → weight
I was at my daughter’s and was going to mention my concern for my granddaughter’s weight. asserted
I → go → weight
Before I could finish, my son-in-law came in, told me I shouldn’t be talking about Libby’s weight and walked away. uncertain
I → finish → weight
I thought I could talk to my daughter about things I was concerned about. uncertain
I → think → things
I left feeling very hurt. asserted
I → leave → ?
I sent a text to my daughter apologizing. asserted
I → send → daughter
My son-in-law came to my house and said I need to filter what I say. asserted
I → come → what
He then told me I have made remarks to my grandchildren that hurt them. asserted
that → tell → them
I love my family with all my heart. asserted
I → love → heart
I would die for them. asserted
I → die → them
Was I wrong to mention my concern about Libby? asserted
I → mention → Libby
I’m devastated that my daughter didn’t come to talk with me about it. asserted
daughter → ’m → it
It is disappointing that your son-in-law had to come and talk to you rather than your daughter. asserted
law → have → you
Talk with her, and ask how you can interact with her and her family more positively. asserted
you → talk → her
It is generally known these days that weight is a sensitive subject, particularly if it is associated with a medical condition. asserted
it → know → condition
If Libby is under a doctor’s care, you can be confident that everything that can be done for her is being done. asserted
that → do → her
Because you have now been informed that some of the comments you have made have hurt your grandchildren, it may be time to close your mouth and turn on your “listening ears” when you visit. uncertain
you → inform → ears
Also, when you want a private conversation with your daughter, make sure that it is, indeed, private. asserted
it → want → daughter
I have known “Ralph” for many years and consider him one of my best friends. asserted
him → know → friends
We share many interests, and through the years we have frequently discussed them over the phone. asserted
we → share → phone
Ralph retired recently and is bored, so now he calls me three or four times a week, even when there is nothing new to talk about. asserted
he → retire → me
We rehash the same things over and over again. asserted
We → rehash → things
I’ve dropped subtle hints that my life doesn’t change much from day to day. asserted
life → drop → day
If I allow his calls to go to voicemail, he leaves a message and asks me to call him back. asserted
he → allow → him
I don’t want to be rude, but how can I get him to call less frequently? asserted
him → want → ?
If Ralph’s voice message doesn’t contain a reason for you to call him back, you’re not obligated to do so with any urgency. asserted
you → contain → urgency
It’s not rude of you to enforce a waiting period between your calls with him. asserted
It → ’ → him
Whenever he does bring up a worn-out topic, say something like, “Oh, yeah, we talked about this a few days ago!” asserted
we → bring → this
In this way, you subtly make it obvious that you’re not going to let him drag you into the same conversations time and time again. asserted
him → make → conversations
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren. asserted
Abby → write → Buren
For nearly four decades, Jeanne Phillips penned this column, which was founded in 1956 by her mother, Pauline Phillips. asserted
which → pen → mother
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